Adult Book List

A Broken Heart Still Beats
This is a compilation of short (one page) writings from many authors (some famous) who have lost children. A short writing by editors Anne McCracken and Mary Semel who have lost a child prefaces each chapter. It must have over 100 writings from various authors including Mark Twain, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Victor Hugo, Robert Frost, Eric Clapton (Tears in Heaven) who lost a child. I would read it and cry which is what I needed to do the first year after losing Ryan.

A Time to Grieve: Meditations for Healing After the Death of a Loved One by Carol Stuadacher
A collection of truly comforting, down-to-earth thoughts and meditations including the authentic voices of survivors-for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one.

Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart-100 Practical Ideas After a Child Dies by Alan Wolfett
Presenting simple yet highly effective methods for coping and healing, this book provides answers and relief to parents trying to deal with the loss of a child. Its offers 100 practical, action-oriented tips for embracing grief such as writing a letter to the child, spending time with others who will listen to the story of your grief, creating a memory album, box or website: and remembering others who may still be struggling with the death. The guide discusses common problems: marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice and exploring feelings of guilt. A compassionate resource that will aid parents who have been through the death of a child whether recent or many years ago.

How Can I Help: Twelve Things to Do When Someone You Know Suffers a Loss and What Will Help Me: Twelve Things to Remember When You Have Suffered a Loss by James E Miller
We have used this book for those who wish to volunteer in our peer support program. It is a simple, well-written book. Held one way this book is for those who are grieving. It has twelve brief and easy to read chapters. It offers ideas about how to cope in healthy ways. Held another way this book is for those who are helping the bereaved. It offers twelve chapters of practical advice to help those in need of grief support.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Peter McWilliams, Harold Bloomfield and Melba Colgrave
Written by an author, a poet and a grief counselor, this book helps anyone walk through their grief in a page-by-page, step by step process. Very touching and easy to read. Deals with all types of loss.

I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Loss of a Loved One by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair
Very Practical. Walks you through grief step-by-step, day-by-day. The authors are bereaved parents.

Mommy, Please Don’t Cry; Tender Words For Broken Hearts by Linda DeYmaz
A book written for mothers everywhere who have experienced the deep sorrow of losing a child. The illustrations and simple language are easy to read and heartwarming.

Recovering After Loss by Bob Deits
It deals with several types of loss such as death, divorce and specific issues such as the loss of a child

Remembering with Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond by Elizabeth Levang and Sherokee Isle
Nice, short messages of hope. Easy to read with just 2 or 3 pages at a time. I used this as a meditation-type book when my son died.

The Mourning Handbook: The Most Comprehensive Resource Offering Practical and Compassionate Advice on Coping with All Aspects of Death and Dying by Helen Fitzgerald
From preparing for the death of a loved one to taking care of practical matters to dealing with overwhelming emotions, this most comprehensive guide to grieving based on the author’s experience as a grief counselor discusses the issues people face before during and after the death of a friend or family member. Very basic information. General help with grief definitions funeral planning, coping, etc.

The SIDS Survival Guide Information and Comfort for Grieving Family and Friends and Professionals Who Seek to Help Them by Joani Nelson Horchler and Robin Rice Morris
It was right on the mark with what I was feeling and going through

When Goodbye is Forever-Learning to Live Again After the Loss of a Child by John Bramblett
It is written by the father of a 2 year old who was run over by a truck and killed in his own driveway. It gave me a sense of support and hope when I read it after Sam died.

When Life Takes What Matters Most: Devotions to Comfort You Through Crisis and Change by Susan Lenzkes
Lenkus offers a reflective, hope-filled devotions guide for those who seek comfort in the face of loss and grief. Brief meditative devotions consider the many aspects of loss and speak compassionately to grieving hearts while offering God-centered solutions. I used this for a few weeks just to get me refocused on my faith. I was so angry with God that I needed to remind myself of what I believed before Zach died and figure out whether my faith still held true.

When The Bough Breaks, Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter by Judith Bernstein
I seemed to have found this book more “useful than so many of the others even though much of the same information is covered. The author, who lost a son, approached the book kind of like a research project and interviewed a number of compassionate friends and families. She intersperses their comments throughout the book. I liked reading the different responses as many, but not all, echoed how I feel. I like how the book draws on the experience of other bereaved parents vs. just being a purely scholarly summary of the stages of grief. 

Roses in December by Marilyn Willett Heavilin
Used for years by individuals, grief counselors, and support groups, Roses in December has helped readers understand the grieving process, support family members, give insight into sibling grief, and maintain their marriages during difficult times. This newly revised edition offers the same compassion and encouragement plus chapters on losing loved ones under special circumstances, such as suicide and AIDS.

With deep empathy, Marilyn helps those who are grieving find God’s comfort. Having lost three sons, she knows the tremendous sorrows and struggles that come with the death of loved ones. Yet she shares how even in the winters of our lives God provides roses—special occasions, special people, and special memories—to give us strength and draw close to Him.

Growing Up In Heaven by James Van Praagh
Blessed with an exceptional gift, New York Times bestselling author James Van Praagh has the ability to bridge the gap between this world and the next. Based on nearly thirty years of spirit communication, this renowned and beloved medium takes us on a powerful, eye-opening, and ultimately inspiring voyage. Filled with incredible and uplifting true stories and profound messages of love, this astounding look at heaven provides a remarkably detailed portrayal of the child's soul as it moves from this world to the next. Our eyes and hearts open and we experience firsthand the unbreakable bond between parent and child, all the while glimpsing a vision of heaven.

Van Praagh reveals the reality that love transcends the physical and material planes of this world. Growing Up in Heaven lifts our spirits with the knowledge that our departed ones will always be with us—an extraordinary gift for all of us who yearn to understand life on the other side.

Goodnight, Not Goodbye by Laura Sateriale 
When Laura Sateriale discovered that her thriving, healthy daughter had passed away in her sleep, her worst nightmare became a painful reality. In the dark hours and days ahead, survival seemed impossible. Goodnight, Not Goodbye is a raw, emotional testament to a mother's love, and an honest account of SIDS / SUDC loss. Over the course of five years, Laura shares how she learned to cope with grief and the new normal she faced with her family.