It is said that grandparents suffer a “double grief”- their own grief of their grandchild’s death and the grief they face at watching their own child grieve. Please contact us today and let us help. Our community of over 900 families worldwide is ready to support you in any way we can. For more information, view a list of our detailed services here.
Below are some tips from the First Candle/SIDs alliance on handling difficult family dynamics and your grief.
Grandparents often feel they need to have all the answers, know how to cope best, control the situation and be an example.
Sometimes, the parent(s) have rejected the advice, offers of support, financial assistance, babysitting, and whatever help they can think of. This can lead to feelings of guilt and anger – however, grief is a highly individualized process. What may be helpful to the grandparent may not work for the parent. If there has been any family conflict between the parent and grandparent, or extended family, in-laws, etc., it can create further barriers throughout the grief process.
Regardless of the particular dynamics in a family, what we do know is that boundaries are important.
Families registered with the SUDC Foundation can access more information on grandparent grief in the private access area for registered families section of our website.
“For Grandparents… ‘A Double Grief’ .”http://www.ndhealth.gov/Sids/Publications/GrandparentsDoubleGrief.pdf, First Candle/SIDS Alliance,2003.