A question that we are always asked is, “How do I deal with events like holidays, birthdays, weddings, and parties?”
This is such a difficult question to answer because those days are different for everyone. Sometimes they are painful, sometimes joyous, or maybe something you may want to completely avoid. What we can tell you is that special times will always bring reminders of our precious children. Externalizing the loss can help keep it real, tangible, and palpable. Light a candle, share a happy story about your child, plant a flower or make a special meal that your son or daughter loved.
We may anticipate the way we will feel or may be caught off guard. There is no normal or perfect reaction. It is natural to feel different about holidays and celebrations. Remember to lean on your support system and voice your feelings. Experiencing the emotions that come with holidays now are part of your journey. It’s okay to remember and honor the love and happy times you had with your child.
You may realize that the time leading up to the day is worse than the day itself. Below are some tips to help you decide what is comfortable for you.
Below is adapted from “Bereavement & Loss Resources” a publication of Rivendell Resources and Grief Net