My first instinct as we write this is to tell you all every detail of the horrible morning we found Tylor passed away in his crib, the horrible events that followed and the day before he passed. But Keith made a great point…when we remember Tylor we don’t want to relive those awful events every time we visit this site, and neither should you.
Here is what we do want to remember…
Both having siblings ourselves (Keith has two younger brothers and I have 5 older brothers) we knew, if we could, we wanted to let our children grow up with the sibling experience. Being able to give Mackenzie a little brother was such a wonderful blessing. For 1 year and 21 days we watched not only Tylor grow into his own personality, but Mackenzie grow in her big sister role, too.
What a chunky monkey Tylor grew up to be…so many rolls and such a goofy grin! He made us all giggle with his curious, happy personality and maybe even a partial devilish little brother streak to him, too! Mackenzie will tell you he ALWAYS knocked over her towers! Regardless of how many tears he brought to Mackenzie by knocking over her towers and getting into her stuff, she always woke up in the morning and when Tylor woke up she’d run into his room, climb into his crib and sing good morning to him.
We looked forward to starting a family tradition of apple and pumpkin picking and hay rides at Sholan Farms (which we did for the first time just a few weeks before Tylor passed and have continued each year since), carving pumpkins together, wondering each year which costume he’d want to wear for Halloween…Thanksgiving, Christmas morning, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day…we could go on and on!
After time, the support of The Compassionate Friends, The SUDC Foundation, our friends and family and much work on our grief journey we can now look back (well, most days anyways) and not think about Tylor as a loss, but such a blessing we had in our lives for 1 year and 21 days. We will probably never know all the answers until we meet him again. We miss him so dearly, but would have rather had Tylor for 1 year and 21 days then to have never have loved him at all. We love you Ty-Ty!!!
There are not stars in the sky but rather openings,
where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.
~ Eskimo Legend